I am married with one child. I have been a resident of New Berlin for 8 years. I enjoy the New Berlin community and I am proud to be a part of it. I love arts and crafts, painting, beading, coupon clipping, cooking and writing.
Have you ever had a moment where you’ve looked at your child and thought, “Is that really my little boy?” or “Can that young woman really be my daughter?” I recall a time when my son James ran up to me after swimming. For a second I didn’t recognize my own son! Overnight it seemed he had grown several inches! His cheeks slimmed down, and his shoulders were broad like a young man. But just yesterday he had been my little boy!
We parents get home from work every day it’s already time to make dinner, cleanup and do homework or a few chores. The next thing we know, the day is coming to an end it’s time for bed. But where is the quality time with our kids? Let’s face it, in today’s society especially with both parents working spending quality time with your children can be difficult.
Someone once told me to set aside 30 minutes per day to give your child your undivided attention. This is worth more than an entire day of rushing round and running errands together. This made sense to me, so I decided to make this my goal. How do I accomplish this? Well, on those nights when I do not have time to go for a walk, sit down and play a board game or read a book with my son, I decided to just get him involved in what I am doing or working on—or vice-versa.
For example: I ask my son to help me set the table. My son is at the age where he really enjoys helping mom. If I am clipping coupons, I ask him to help me sort them or make a grocery list. If I am working on an art project or writing, I get him going with his own project off to the side. It is awesome to be in the same room together and actually doing the same thing. During these activities, we are also more apt to have conversations without the distraction of a television or electronics.
Other times, I have been working on just getting involved in what he is doing. I may get down on the floor and play with action figures for a few minutes. Or just sit down and watch 15 minutes of a kids show with him. I have also learned that there are still good movies out there than we can rent and watch together as a family!
Of course, some days, little tasks like this will be impossible—but as parents we cannot get discouraged and give up! The key is to keep working at it. If we make a conscious effort every day to spend time with our children, they will notice.
I also believe we will be content and happier as parents knowing we are doing the best we can to spend quality time with our children. After all, they grow up so quickly.